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Discover the incredible memoirs of internationally bestselling author Cathy Glass with this free extended eBook sampler of Cathy's first book, and No. 1 Su. Her last hope is Cathy Glass. Cathy, an experienced foster carer, is pressured into taking Jodie as a new placement. The Heartbreaking True Story of a Lost Little Girl. Discover the incredible memoirs of internationally bestselling author Cathy Glass with this free extended eBook sampler of Cathy's first book, and No. 1 Sunday.
Her last hope is Cathy Glass. At the Social Services office, Cathy an experienced foster carer is pressured into taking Jodie as a new placement. Jodie's challenging behaviour has seen off five carers in four months. Despite her reservations, Cathy decides to take on Jodie to protect her from being placed in an institution. Jodie arrives, and her first act is to soil herself, and then wipe it on her face, grinning wickedly. Jodie meets Cathy's teenage children, and greets them with a sharp kick to the shins. That night, Cathy finds Jodie covered in blood, having cut her own wrist, and smeared the blood over her face.
Showing Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Jan 02, Paul Bryant rated it liked it Shelves: Are we now living in the age of Full Disclosure when everything is revealed about what people do to each other, the real truth about what human beings are?
When it comes to dresses being paraded with presidential semen stains still upon them, or the latest youtube viral video horrors, you may think so.
But - although it seems we have reached a plateau I think there is a way to go. The misery memoir, of which A Boy Called It is the ur-text, is a step along the way. Misery memoirs - my Waterstone' Are we now living in the age of Full Disclosure when everything is revealed about what people do to each other, the real truth about what human beings are? Misery memoirs - my Waterstone's has a whole wall of them. Damaged was one of the first. But here's what is still to be revealed: We might be talking about domestic abuse or rape or war crimes, but there's nothing from them ever.
Probably on the very reasonable grounds that they're all nauseating lowlifes who should be given rat poison rather than a pen and paper, and also that they'll lie and try to make out it was all because of their own painful childhoods or that the rape and the war crime was consensual.
The depraved are either smart enough to know they really shouldn't tell the truth, or stupid enough not to be able to anyway.
So it seems that at present we believe that victims always tell the truth and perpetrators always lie. Can this be true? Probably not, but I think we'll have to live with that for a long time yet.
I doubt that we'll ever get the perpetrator's stories. Why would we want to? Because no man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; because I am involved in mankind. That last bit's by John Donne, not me! As regards Damaged, as I read I found the good angel of belief and the bad angel of unbelief grappling with each other in the space just behind my left ear.
Alas for Cathy Glass, she writes very dully and competently except when it comes to dialogue, when we get stuff that sounds straight out of The Exorcist: Jodie [aged 8] spun round to face me. Her features were hard and distorted.
Get out bitch! She advanced towards me with her hands clawed, baring her teeth. Get out or I'll fucking kill you. Exactly what the perps count on, of course - No one will believe you. Anyway, this is a straightforward account of one foster woman's total nightmare, the nastiest most ungovernable 8 year old which everyone else had given up on. Once again the social workers get it in the neck - all the signs of familial abuse were there for years and were not spotted, the stupid feeble social workers were intimidated by the family, same old same old.
I would have been interested in more detail about the degenerate birth family but Cathy Glass would not have had any access to that info.
And I would have liked an uplifting and hopeful end to this revolting tale. So here's my full disclosure: This damaged child was not healed. Life's like that. View all 8 comments. Dec 24, Audra rated it did not like it Shelves: Writing was so-so I think that there are better stories of the realities of being a foster parent. Why these events? Plus, disassociative identity disorder is highly controversial, and I found the portrayl to be quite stereotypical, as if based on a movie or Wikipedia entry.
I also strongly disliked the discrimination towards people with disabilities that r Writing was so-so I also strongly disliked the discrimination towards people with disabilities that rang throughout the book, such as when she said that, at 10?
Or when she said that since her face wasn't "vacant", she couldn't have severe learning difficulties. I updated my review and lowered my stars once I saw that Cathy Glass has basically written a memoir about how disturbed a kid is over and over on site, which makes me think that they are either exaggerated or exploitative, and I dislike both options.
It's just like playing on every stereotype of foster care that there is. I am looking forward to reading other, better books, such as Another Place at the Table , and I hope you will too. View all 10 comments. Jan 12, Love rated it it was amazing Shelves: This book it is kind of hard to describe how it made me feel Mad, sad. How could any system just kind of look over things like this. Out of all the books I have read on this subject matter, this has touched beyond belief. I understand a little more about post tramatic disorder because of it though.
I don't want to spoil it for anyone just think anyone that can handle reading such descriptive accounts of abuse should read it. I do like the writing style and the author makes you feel the pain o This book it is kind of hard to describe how it made me feel I do like the writing style and the author makes you feel the pain of that poor little girl.
Cathy Glass what an amazing women to help children like this. I have takin in a couple of children with similar backgrounds but never had to deal with any reactions from it at this kind of levels. View all 9 comments. Dec 11, Karen rated it it was amazing. I am not sure of any other way to rate this book. This book is about a girl named, Jodi, who enters the foster care system at the age of 7. Within 4mo she has already been through 5 foster homes.
There is little hope for her, until Cathy steps up and agrees to take Jodi in. When Jodi first enters Cathy's home she is very violent and rude. In fact, over the year that she is with Cathy that never completely goes away and as time goes on we start to see other disturbing behaviours from Jodi. We will a I am not sure of any other way to rate this book.
We will also start to learn and start to understand why Jodi is acting the way that she does. The reason s are so horrible that I had to stop reading and just take some time to digest what I just read. There were some parts that I had to literally re-read to see if I read it correctly. Remember that this is a true story, so if you are overly sensitive or are weak at heart you may not want to read this book.
This book will make you cry, it will make you very angry, it will make you sick to your stomach. But, you will also read about the amazing heart one foster mother had. The patience, the love, the toughness that she had and that she gave this little girl.
Jodi was passed from one foster home to another because nobody could handle her. Cathy Glass was determined to help her and she seen it through to the end.
Even though there were times she wanted to throw in the towel, when she was frustrated at her situation and at social services, she was overly exhausted and running on empty, she still found just a little bit more inside her to keep going.
So besides for the hurt you will feel from reading this book, you will also know that there are still angels out there. View 2 comments. Nov 18, Jody Skalski rated it really liked it. I read this book pretty quickly as I couldn't put it down. This is a disturbing story to read. I am sometimes asked why I read such "deep" books. I always find the books such a wealth of information when dealing with children with difficult pasts. I will say that this story and its details was very difficult for me to read, in relation to this young child and what she has endured.
It is unimaginable and incomprehensible what happened to this little girl. I have been involved with the foster care system and could relate with this foster mom and her frustrations of the system, etc. I can only say that Cathy Glass is an incredible human being, along with her children. I'm not sure I know of anyone that could do what she has done for so many and especially what she did for this little girl. I have the highest respect for her and learned much in reading this book.
Thank you Cathy for sharing this story. This book made me cry and I will think about for long after finishing it. Nov 16, Ailina Willis rated it liked it Shelves: Though not eloquent, Glass's writing is sensitive and solid.
The sheer depth of the experience is the crown of this book. I couldn't put it down. I was desperate to read Glass's conclusion, for better or worse. The chronology is tight and thorough, fulfilling the reader's need for detail. Glass exposes her experience honestly, which allows us to inhabit her home during her tumultuous time with "Jodie," the abused child in her care. On the downside, Glass made it almost too clear her strong feeling Though not eloquent, Glass's writing is sensitive and solid.
On the downside, Glass made it almost too clear her strong feelings of distaste for one of the individuals involved in the legal process. I understand her negativity, but I felt the portrayal of those feelings was at times a bit over the top, and it became distracting.
I come away from this book with intensified hatred for sexual predators, deeper respect for foster parents and the unfathomable challenges they face, and a raw ache for the suffering so many children endure at the hands of people who should be their protectors. A recommended read for people who have a special concern for the welfare of children. Confesso que a repulsa e o nojo foram aumentando gradualmente.
Foi duro ler sobre aquilo que Jodie foi obrigada a viver. Foi duro ver que, por pouco, aqueles que tanto mal lhe fizeram iam ficar impunes. Mar 17, Brenda rated it liked it Shelves: I'm very conflicted by this book. I think the author did a good job writing the story and I found it relatively fast and easy to read.
But the content of the story is so disturbing that I also found it very difficult to read. I know these awful things happen, I really don't understand the lack of humanity in some people.
My main gripe with this book is that it seemed somewhat exploitative of the child's situation - granted names, dates, places were changed to protect her privacy. But still - why I'm very conflicted by this book. But still - why write this book? A catharsis maybe? From my reader's perspective, I felt like a spectator watching something I had no business seeing, and there was no takeaway st the end about how to help kids like this, how to protect your own kid, how to recognize signs, etc.
It just seemed like "Woohoo I'm a wonderful carer, everybody thinks the world of me, and look what an awful life THIS kid had View all 4 comments. Apr 06, Kristina Lenarczyk rated it it was amazing Shelves: Such a quick read and a powerful story. Laughed and cried, and can't wait to pick up more from this author.
The Heartbreaking True Story of a Forgotten Child by Cathy Glass Although Jodie is only eight years old, she is violent, aggressive, and her challenging behaviour has sent her off to five carers in four months. Her last hope is Cathy Glass, an experienced foster carer that decides to take her on and protect her from being placed in an institution. As Jodie begins to trust Cathy, her behaviour improves. Over time, with childish honesty, she reveals details of the abuses she suffered at t Damaged: Over time, with childish honesty, she reveals details of the abuses she suffered at the hands of her parents and others.
It becomes clear that the Social Services are not seeing what should have been obvious signs. Now, Jodie lost her childhood and her development may be forever compromised. I would like to start by saying that I'm quite a sensitive person, so I was a bit nervous going into it. My mom had already read it and warn me about the subject matter.
I didn't know if I could do it but, in the end, I'm so glad I did. This is a disturbing true story. Jodie experienced many things that kids, at this age, shouldn't even have to hear about. It broke my heart and had me in tears, its made me think about fostering to. I read your book Damaged, and then looked on the internet to see how Jodie is getting on.
I am definitely going to download more of your books. My boyfriend asked me what would I rate it out of ten and I straight the way said 10 out of Reading one of your books has made me want to read more!!!
Just keep up writing those amazing stories. I love you so much. That you were able to give them love and show them how parents should behave is something you should be very proud of yourself and your children. I admire you for you work as a foster career and the way you handle the very difficult situations that arise from fostering these children. That you can help turn there lives around is truly amazing. Your books are a real inspiration and with each new one I read I find myself amazed by your patience and dedication.
I am by profession, a head teacher of an inter city school. People like Jill and Kitty I miss my mummy fill my heart with hope that there are social care workers who do really want to make a difference and not a simple quick fix with less paperwork.
I think what you and other foster carers do is truly amazing. Away from the chaos they have previously tried to survive in.
What for me is most heart warming, is seeing those children allowed at last to be children. Please keep up the good work and love to your three children. I have discovered your books whilst on maternity leave. Not only have your books reaffirmed my strong belief in the importance of our young people they have also helped me with my own day to day life as a young ish mother of three. You describe day to day life in such a comforting yet purposeful way that I feel just reading your books has helped me to stay positive after a troubling bout of post natal depression.
The power of the written word. Many thanks for sharing the stories of your life and I wish you and the family you describe so lovingly, all the very best. I recently lost my job and your books, which I listen to via storytel, really help me get through the day. Thank you for writing your books. I have to tell you, I totally loved it!! Thank you and have a nice day. I know how hard it was for Jade as my daughter was on the child in need register due to the fact that I was in care.
I hope to become a foster parent as well. Some of your books break my heart but others give me hope. I look forward to reading more although I have read me. My husband and I have fostered children ranging in ages from newborn to 18 years.
You have written the books that I truly wish I could have time to write. Your writings share so much of the information that I have longed to share, but have no time or the ability to be the great writer that you are.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and knowledge. They are very interesting and very moving too. My husband and I hope that you and your family are well. God bless you all.
I am just amazed of how you can help these kids coming from a bad home life, helping turn their lives around. Thank you so much for everything. I have just finished reading it. As a child who has been abused and in I know what Jodie was feeling.
It made me cry. I hope that Jodie has made huge progress. I revisit your books Damaged is looking a bit worse for wear. I still find you an inspiration and each of your foster children has been so lucky to have you. I look to your calm and understanding manner when I am dealing with the young people if they are in crisis, and hope that I can be the positive role model you have been.
I thank you for each of your books, as no matter how many times I read them I still get a lump in my throat. You writings have vastly influenced my desire to work with this population.
I want to make life for people who do what you so wonderfully, as easy as possible. Thank you so so much for all that you do. I have read all your other books, again Danny story touched my heart so deeply, due to myself working with children with autism. Well done such a wonderful woman you are. Well hope you and your family are well and I look forward to your next book.
Keep writing. Next please. Love to you all. It was very emotional for me, and I experienced a lot of emotions during the book. I learnt a lot from the book, and I want to thank you for enlightening me. I wish you all the best for the future. I inspired by the way you write own true stories happened in your life. You are such a great admiring person in my life. Once I started reading the book I ended up finishing it in a day. There will be always support from me to your family and writing more novels.
I also have borderline personality disorder. Your books are an inspiration to me. I hope you have a new book coming soon. Best wishes from a dedicated fan.
I used to be in care and can relate to most of your books. You are a top woman Cathy, you really are. So much so that I want to become a foster carer. I know that you have had a lot of children come through your door including your own , and you have miraculously helped so many. Forget all the celebrities in this world, my dream is to meet you one day. I just need to see you so I can give you the biggest hug ever. Thank you so much. I could never imagine that forced underage marriages are possible in one of the most civilised countries in the world.
My heart goes out for all the suffering the poor kid has gone through. I spent half a day yesterday reading comments on your site and was impressed by how many people have been affected by your books, exclusive writing style and your personality. I am not talking just about the children you fostered which goes without saying , I mean those who have read your books or those who having being abused in their childhood finally found a way to come to terms with their past.
What a huge and wonderful job you are doing! Tens of thousands people must have benefited in different ways from your work. The number of your fans in Russia is growing fast. I loved Cut. It was so sad about Dawn. I grew attached to Dawn and it had me in tears at the end because of how good it was.
I just fished reading The Night the Angels Came, I got so attached to Patrick in this book and Michael it was so sad how Michael lost his father and his mother. I love your books. I get lost reading your books. I have just read Saving Danny and must say I definitely think it one of my favourites which is hard to say as I love all your books.
I underlined a part in your book near the beginning as soon as I saw it as it really said just what I believe. When Lucy originally could not be adopted by you I lost it, how could they do this?
Thanks to a change in social workers that quickly changed, I was relieved. Oh my word…. Jade is about to lose her precious Courtney.
Someone was looking out for them with another change in events. Poor Michael losing his father. I really felt for you on this one. I felt as though you fell in love with him as well. I could go on but I think you got the point. My parents fostered here in Pennsylvania while I was growing up and some of the life events of these children were just heart breaking.
You have a heart of gold! My problem is I cannot get enough of them. In other words I am now waiting for your next. I love your way of writing in that I feel as though I am in your house watching what is happening.
You are my favourite author. You are amazing. How do you find this amazing energy to do all this? Your books are getting me through long days at work, and long nights. You have inspired me to keep going. I was going through kind of a rough time at work when I found your book. All I can say is thank you. Cathy, America loves you, a wonderful woman. May she take good care of her baby. She can always turn to you for advice in bringing up her baby successfully.
May god bless all of us. Will definitely be downloading the rest of your books, you are amazing. You look after all these children and you have had it tough yourself. I have a young daughter who I love unconditionally. I have noted so many disorders, reactions, and behaviours through your book.
I was shocked when I read your book. I am shy to tell you, in Sri Lanka I have heard this kind of cases. Very much appreciate your contribution to whole world. I read your book Damaged and loved it. So, I introduced it to my daughter who is 14 years old.
She really loved it. Now, she is working on reading all of your books. She says it is really helping her get through the difficult times being a sister to all of the kids coming in and out of the house. They were always unique and their troubles distinctly their own.
Removing a child from its parents was never going to be a humdrum, everyday event; it was always traumatic, emotional and difficult. Nevertheless, something told me that this was far more complex than anything Id yet encountered.
I felt another stab of apprehension, like I had when Jill first told me about the case the day before, but I was also interested. What could this child be like, to warrant so much involvement from so many people? Jill and I took the two vacant chairs at the far end, and I felt every eye was on me, assessing my suitability.
The chairman was Dave Mumby, the Social Services team leader, and he began the round of introductions. On his left was Sally, the guardian ad litem: The lady next to her introduced herself as Nicola, Jodies home tutor. Home tutor? Why isnt the child in school? I wondered. Next was Gary, Jodies current social worker. He explained that he was about to leave the case, and hand Jodie over to Eileen, who was sitting next to him. I looked at Eileen carefully if I was going to take Jodie, then Eileen and I would have to work closely together.
At first glance she was nondescript: So far, so good. I wasnt surprised that I was already witnessing a change of social worker.
It happened all the time it was the nature of the job that people had to move on but it was unfortunate for the children and families involved, who were always having to learn new faces, build trust and forge fresh relationships with endless strangers.
Although I knew it was something that couldnt be altered and was just part of the system, with all its flaws, nonetheless I felt for Jodie. Changing social worker would mean yet more disruption for her, and I wondered how many social workers shed been through already. Next, Deirdre introduced herself. She was the agency link worker for Jodies current foster carers. Then it was my turn, and the eyes of everyone around the table turned to me.
I looked around the table, meeting the various gazes. Im Cathy Glass, I said, as clearly and confidently as I could. Im a foster carer from Homefinders Fostering Agency. There wasnt much more I could add at this stage, when I knew so little about what was going on, so I passed on to Jill. After Jill came someone from the accounts department, followed by a member of the local authoritys placement team.
As they spoke, I looked over at Gary, Jodies current social worker. He was young, and could only have been in his mid-twenties. How successful had he been at forging a relationship with Jodie? Perhaps Eileen, as a woman, would fare better at empathizing with the little girl, so the change of social worker might be for the better in this case. I hoped so. Once the introductions were complete, Dave thanked us for coming, and gave a brief outline of what had been happening, or to use the correct terminology: I warmed to Dave immediately.
He was gently spoken but forthright, and looked directly at me as he spoke. I made a mental note of the salient points: Jodie had been on the at-risk register since birth, which meant that Social Services had been monitoring the family for eight years.
Although there had been suspicions of emotional and physical abuse by Jodies parents, no steps had been taken to remove her or her younger brother Ben and sister Chelsea. Then, four months ago, Jodie had started a house fire by setting light to her pet dog I shivered at this, struck by the.
Ben and Chelsea had both been placed with foster carers and were doing well. But Jodie exhibited very challenging behaviour. I heard Dave deliver this euphemism and raised my eyebrows. All foster carers knew what that really stood for. It meant completely out of control. I think it would be useful, said Dave, looking at me, for you to hear from her social worker now.
Garys been on the case for two years. Feel free to ask any questions. Despite his youth, Gary was confident and methodical as he gave me an overview of Jodie and her family. Im afraid that the general picture isnt good, as youd expect. Theres severe disruption inside the family. Jodies mother is an intravenous drug user and her father is an alcoholic. In recent years, Jodies suffered a number of injuries while at home, including burns, scalds, cuts, bruises and a broken finger.
All of these were recorded at hospital, and although it was suspected that some of the injuries were non-accidental, it was impossible to prove that this was the case. Gary went on with his tale of neglect and misery while I concentrated on absorbing the facts. It was an appalling case history but Id heard similar stories many times before.
Nevertheless, it never ceased to amaze and horrify me that people could treat their children with such cruelty and indifference, and I was already feeling for this poor little girl. How could any child grow and be. Gary continued, Jodies no longer in school because of the recent moves, which is why shes been assigned a home tutor. She has learning difficulties and a statement of special needs. That was straightforward enough I was used to looking after children with developmental delays and learning difficulties.
I suspected that Gary was giving me the censored version of Jodies case history. In all my years of fostering, Id never heard of a child going through five carers in four months. When he paused and looked at me, I seized my opportunity. It would be helpful if you could tell me the make-up of the families of the previous carers, I said, hoping to discover clues to explain why Jodie had gone through so many, so fast. How many children did they have, and were they older or younger?
Had the carers had experience with this type of child before? Gary coughed and looked a little shifty. The previous placement breakdowns were purely circumstantial, he said. One of the couples were first-time carers and Jodie should never have been placed with them that was an error on our part and its no surprise that it didnt work out.
That was fair enough, but as he went through the other placements, he sounded unconvincing to my ears: Garys explanation. Deirdre, who was the link worker representing Jodies present foster carers, felt obliged to speak up in their defence.
After all, if Jodie was as harmless as Gary was making out, it didnt exactly reflect very well on their ability to cope. Jodie has delayed development, she said. In most respects, she acts like a three- or four-year-old rather than an eight-year-old. She throws terrible tantrums and is consistently aggressive and uncooperative. Her behaviour is violent, abusive and destructive.
Even though shes only been with Hilary and Dave a short time, shes already broken a number of objects, including a solid wooden door. I raised my eyebrows. Quite a feat for an eight-year-old. But Deirdre wasnt finished yet, and she went on with her litany of Jodies faults and shortcomings. Jodies carers had described her as cold, calculating, manipulative, very rude and totally unlikeable. Harsh words to pin on a little girl. Surely, I thought, someone could say something nice about her, even if it was only that she liked her food.
Children in care tend to eat ravenously, because in the past many of them havent known when the next meal would arrive. But no, not so much as she does like her chocolate. It appeared that Jodie did not have a single endearing feature. Instead, there was just a list of transgressions,.