Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step. Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits and how to find the courage to call it quits. Are you unable to leave a love relationship even. Â Â You are addicted--to a person.Â Â Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split.
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How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When--and Why--Love Doesn't Work [ Howard Halpern] on ronaldweinland.info *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Are you . How to break your addiction to a person by Howard Marvin Halpern, Bantam Books edition, in English. Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits and how to find the courage to call it quits. Are you unable to leave a love.
Then, he offers several techniques on how to end an unhealthy relationship or an emotional affair. Keep track of the events and happenings of the relationship, but above all, and in as honest detail as you can, set down your feelings about the contacts with your partner. The reasons this can be extraordinarily helpful are a It compels you to notice what is going on and how you feel about it, b It can help you to look back through it and see the shape of the relationship, what it has really been like and felt like, what have been its patterns over time, and c It can curb your tendencies to distort the relationship by either twisting events, repainting your feeling and forgetting either the unpleasant or the pleasant. It can be eye-opening to see if there is a pattern in the people you have tended to get involved with and the types of relationships you have formed, so unless your current partner is the only love relationship you have had, I suggest you do a Relationship Review. First, list the names of each person with whom you had a romantic attachment, going as far back as you can. Then set down the Physical Attributes of each—his or her height, build, hair color, movement, voice, general attractiveness, etc.
I learned a lot about my addiction to my last boyfriend. It was a totally unhealthy relationship. I was addicted to him, and he was addicted to alcohol. Not a good combo.
I'd recommend this book to anyone who is addicted or attached to a toxic partner. Aug 01, Brian rated it it was ok. Linking your adult relationship addictions to what happened in your infancy, something defined you then that is rationally defining how you behave now.
And using this idea as a background theory, Halpern is attempting to teach the logical side of what un-addicted person with normal boundaries would do. While it is admirable to cover logistics, when you are in the thick of an addiction, it's not going to help. Saying, "Hey, you have a coffee addiction" is not even going to help someone who knows Linking your adult relationship addictions to what happened in your infancy, something defined you then that is rationally defining how you behave now.
Saying, "Hey, you have a coffee addiction" is not even going to help someone who knows they have a coffee addiction because you are addicted to the taste, smell, feeling, and emotions tied to it. Jan 28, Julie Duck rated it it was amazing.
Extremely helpful book. I didn't think I had any addiction, but people have always be I did.
This book shed light on what constitutes addiction to a person. While you might be thinking it's about co-dependency, there is so much more and it goes back to our own upbringing.
Certain life events that happen to us as children can make us more prone to addiction as adults. I highly recommend this if you can't break free from someone, even if you know you should. Feb 24, Mira rated it liked it. Really sensible book, but I imagine if you're reading this in a hysterical, broken hearted kind of a way a lot of the advice would pass you download.
I think it's good to have a number of psych books on your shelf, because it can remind you that you're experiencing "the human condition" and intellectualise situations that are distressing you. This is staying on my shelf. Nov 05, Sayin rated it it was amazing. Although I have read many books on the subject, this one is the best for my opinion.
I have learned how my childhood relationship with my mom had affected my current intimate relationship. The author demonstrated this clearly with examples. Don't let your attachment hunger rule your life!
But it might be a turning point to change Mar 16, Kelly rated it it was amazing Shelves: Fascinating insight into attachment hunger and how our infant needs can keep us in relationships that no longer serve us.
The case studies are relatable and help to illustrate the issues and how to work toward resolution. Very valuable tool for reassurance during a breakup of a painful relationship. Feb 10, Romeo Ballayan rated it it was amazing.
I never believed that you could be addicted to another person until I saw how many adults in my life, myself included, still had desperate needs of a child. How we sought acceptance, praise, and approval and would chase it at all costs no matter how damaging the effects. This book was a beautiful guide in understanding that you have choice: Powerful stuff. Good way!
Oct 29, Macy Rabourn rated it liked it. This book had a one sided outlook on relationships and the reasons we behave the way we do in those relationships. Overall, this book was entertaining but should be read with a grain of salt. Mar 23, Casey rated it it was ok.
I listened to the audio book and almost didn't finish. It was a boring read. I'm not sure what I was expecting, it just didn't work for me. Apr 24, Erwin Rossen rated it did not like it Shelves: I started this book with the wrong assumption: This book assumes that you have made your mind up that you want to leave a person, that you already know that the relationship is bad for you, but that you are too weak to actually do so.
I started reading it, but felt annoyed with it after a couple of pages. Two weeks later, I tried again, but again after a few pages, I couldn't take it anymore.
I couldn't relate at all with I started this book with the wrong assumption: I couldn't relate at all with the characters in the book! For me personally, breaking an addiction would be really easy. The hard part, and the reason I wanted to read this book initially, is to recognize your addiction. This book didn't help me with that at all. Dec 16, Agata rated it really liked it Recommends it for: This book has saved my life Apr 02, Luisa rated it it was amazing.
Jan 03, Aliki rated it it was amazing. Great book, it helped me immensely while I was recovering from an abusive relationship. It opened up my eyes to a huge number of red flags I was trying to overlook. Was only ok. Sep 11, Johanna rated it it was ok.
Pretty easy to digest, with some helpful strategies. Not bad, not great. Jennifer rated it it was amazing Jul 31, Kelly Everhart rated it really liked it May 11, Lacretia rated it it was ok Jun 05, Maurice Bailey rated it it was amazing Apr 11, Eleach rated it liked it Feb 20, Amyaronson rated it really liked it Jul 17, Heidi Larew rated it liked it Jan 17, There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Readers also enjoyed. Self Help.
About Howard M. Howard M. Halpern was an American psychotherapist and author who mainly wrote self-help books about severing or realigning burdensome relationships.
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