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Read The Power of Patience by M. J. Ryan for free with a 30 day free trial. The Power of Patience looks at the importance of patience—what it can do for us. Read "The Power of Patience How This Old-Fashioned Virtue Can Improve Your Life" by M.J. Ryan available from Rakuten Kobo. Sign up today and get $5 off. This is a book that teaches you how to slow the rush and to reclaim the forgotten virtue of patience. This is a practical feel-good self-help book in the tradition of Richard Carlson. The best book I've read in a long time.
Not in United States? Choose your country's store to see books available for download. See if you have enough points for this item. Sign in. It has become the norm in our everyday busy lives: The result is that we can feel frantic and rushed, stressed and unhappy nearly all the time. Not to mention how the people around us feel.
Army National Guard, never dreaming that it would mean that one day he would be deployed to Iraq. Talk about unasked-for change! I was not prepared for it.
Ironically, it wasn't that I was ill-prepared for combat. I was ill-prepared to leave all that I had worked so hard for behind. I was really stressed out about what the deployment would mean for my business and my career. In making the list, I realized that this deployment would make me a cooler person; it would give me great fodder for screenplays; it would entitle me to many benefits for combat veterans; and it would make me a more confident and well-travelled person.
Not bad results from a combat zone!
He asked, "How could my bad luck be my good luck? But at some point, if you are willing to truly take on the question, you can turn the situation into something not just endurable, but perhaps transformational. Can you expand on one or two of these sinkholes and how they can be avoided?
Ryan: Sinkholes are what I call dangerous attitudes or behaviours that keep us stuck. One of the most common is focusing on the problem, rather than the solution. We bond with our friends through complaining about the situation — isn't it horrible, I can't believe it's happening — and feel better, not realizing that the more we focus on what's wrong, the less we will be able to turn the situation around.
We also get stuck in the problem because society rewards analytic thinking. We believe that identifying the cause is the answer: Why is this happening to me? That's perhaps a starting point, although as a therapist friend once said to me, understanding "why" is the booby prize.
What are you going to do about where you are? What kind of solutions can you find? What help do you need to expand your thinking to move forward? DH: Can you explain what you mean by "Domains of Competence"? Ryan: We each have ways of thinking, persistent ways of approaching problems that we've cultivated throughout our lives.
Domains of Competence describe these four broad categories of thinking. Once you hear what they are, it's pretty easy for you to intuit which your mind typically uses. Research by Hermann International of a sample of over half a million people has found that 60 per cent of us have two of these four, 30 per cent have three, 6 per cent have one and only 4 per cent all four.
They are: Analytic: concerned with data, facts, numbers, and being "logical" and rational. With money: concerned with ways to count. With time: concerned with the present.
Procedural: concerned with processes, operationalizing, logistics, and tactics. With money: concerned with ways to save. With time: concerned with the past, with how things have been done previously. Relational: concerned with feelings, morale, teamwork, and helping people grow. With money: concerned with ways to help.
Time isn't so important. Innovative: concerned with newness, possibilities, strategy, and "big picture. With time: concerned with the future.
Notice your strongest domain s.
Which are your concerns in any given situation? Are you like Ruth; energized by change, bored by numbers and routine, highly innovative and have no use for "people problems"? She's one of the 6 per cent of the population strong in just one domain.
In her case, the Innovative one. Or are you more like Dan, great at numbers and following routines and highly uncomfortable with feelings and newness Analytic and Procedural? There is no right or wrong. Just notice what's true for you. For instance, I don't have any Innovative thinking so I need people to help me come up with new ideas or I'm stranded.
Once I've got the ideas, I use my combination of strengths in the other Domains to move forward. DH: You end the book with 20 quick tips for surviving change you didn't ask for. Can you expand on three of these tips? Ryan: What if you don't believe you have the confidence or talent to find a solution? Pretend you do. Turns out that "fake it till you make it" has validity in brain science — the thoughts we hold and actions you take really do create new pathways in your brain.
Find things to laugh about. Research shows that people who thrive during change work their funny bones. According to psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: "Thrivers' happiness is not dependent on external factors or life circumstances alone.
It derives from their chosen state of consciousness and ability to cheer themselves up when things are looking down. Best of all is when we can laugh at ourselves for not being perfect or when we hit some road block in the direction we wanted to go. It helps us stay lighthearted and resourceful. Breathe slowly and deeply. Shallow breathing is a sign that you are in fight or flight, which comes from your primitive brain and so you're not in touch with all of your resources to handle this change.
A few conscious slow and deep breaths, especially if you also relax your muscles as much as possible, tells the part of your brain responsible for fight or flight that you're not in danger and so it calms down. Then you're able to think more clearly, widely and deeply.
To test if you're breathing deeply, put one hand on your chest, the other on your belly. Take a breath in and out. Are both hands moving? If only the top one is, see if you can get the bottom one going as well. DH: What denotes a successful "Change Master"? Ryan: The process of adapting to change goes like this: 1. Accept the change; 2. Expand your thinking about your options; 3. Get into action to create the new; 4.
What differentiates the Change Masters I know from other folks, is how quickly they can go through the process — "ok, that's over, now what? This gives them an advantage because we're not only called on to change a lot these days, but to do it quickly. Fortunately, once you become conscious of how the process of adaptation works, you too can face future changes with greater confidence and swiftness rather than getting hung up on the rocks of denial, anger, or helplessness.
Ryan ebook. Subjects Self-Improvement Nonfiction. It has become the norm of our fast-paced world to expect everything to happen instantaneously, and for us to become instantly aggravated when it doesn't. The result is that we can feel frantic and rushed, stressed and unhappy nearly all the time. In The Power of Patience , M.
Ryan teaches us how to slow the rush and reclaim the forgotten virtue of patience on a daily basis. She shows how doing so allows us to make better decisions and to feel better about ourselves every day.
Ryan discovered that the classic virtues have enduring power to bring light and love into our lives. With The Power of Patience , she shares what she has learned about the gifts that this old-fashioned quality can bestow, the attitudes that foster a patient outlook, and the practical tools that help us to respond patiently in any given moment. The Power of Patience calls on us to reclaim our time, our priorities, and our ability to respond to life with a firmly grounded sense of who we are.
It is the best gift, we soon learn, that we can give ourselves. From the Hardcover edition. Self-Improvement Nonfiction.