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Almost ten years have passed since my first three books were published:The Drama of the Gifted Child, For Your Own. Good, and Thou Shalt Not Be Aware. So you see, you can say anything about world history. The Alien Enemy Act of the US Congress A file in the online vers. Miller - The Drama of the Gifted Child - Download as PDF File .pdf), Text File .txt ) or read online.
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Psychotherapy with psychotic patients invariably discovered abuse dating back to infancy, and recovery required maternal nursing care to fill the damaged part of the psyche, the right brain. The following is a brief summary of Miller's books. The Drama of the Gifted Child Das Drama des begabten Kindes, [ edit ] In her first book also published under the titles Prisoners of Childhood and The Drama of Being a Child , Miller defined and elaborated the personality manifestations of childhood trauma.
She addressed the two reactions to the loss of love in childhood, depression and grandiosity ; the inner prison, the vicious circle of contempt , repressed memories , the etiology of depression, and how childhood trauma manifests itself in the adult. According to prevailing, general attitudes these people--the pride of their parents--should have had a strong stable sense of self-assurance. But exactly the opposite is the case In my work with these people, I found that every one of them has a childhood history that seems significant to me: There was a mother who at the core was emotionally insecure, and who depended for her narcissistic equilibrium on the child behaving, or acting, in a particular way.
This mother was able to hide her insecurity from the child and from everyone else behind a hard, authoritarian and even totalitarian facade. This child had an amazing ability to perceive and respond intuitively, that is, unconsciously, to this need of the mother or of both parents, for him to take on the role that had unconsciously been assigned to him.
This role secured "love" for the child—that is, his parents' exploitation.
He could sense that he was needed, and this need, guaranteed him a measure of existential security. This ability is then extended and perfected. Later, these children not only become mothers confidantes, advisers, supporters of their own mothers, but also take over the responsibility for their siblings and eventually develop a special sensitivity to unconscious signals manifesting the needs of others.
Children learn to accept their parents' often abusive behaviour against themselves as being "for their own good. For Miller, the traditional pedagogic process was manipulative, resulting in grown-up adults deferring excessively to authorities, even to tyrannical leaders or dictators , like Hitler.
Miller even argued for abandoning the term "pedagogy" in favor of the word "support," something akin to what psychohistorians call the helping mode of parenting.
The key element that Miller elucidated in this book was the understanding of why the German nation, the "good Germans," were compliant with Hitler's abusive regime, which Miller asserted was a direct result of how the society in general treated its children.
She raised fundamental questions about current, worldwide child-rearing practices and issued a stern warning. Thou Shalt Not Be Aware Du sollst nicht merken, [ edit ] Unlike Miller's later books, this one is written in a semi-academic style. It was her first critique of psychoanalysis, charging it with being similar to the poisonous pedagogies, which she described in For Your Own Good. Miller was critical of both Freud and Carl Jung. She scrutinized Freud's drive theory , a device that, according to her and Jeffrey Masson , blames the child for the abusive sexual behavior of adults.
Miller also theorized about Franz Kafka , who was abused by his father but fulfilled the politically correct function of mirroring abuse in metaphorical novels, instead of exposing it.
The Untouched Key.
In Miller gained her doctorate in philosophy , psychology and sociology. In , after having worked as a psychoanalyst and an analyst trainer for 20 years, Miller "stopped practicing and teaching psychoanalysis in order to explore childhood systematically.
Her first three books originated from research she took upon herself as a response to what she felt were major blind spots in her field. However, by the time her fourth book was published, she no longer believed that psychoanalysis was viable in any respect.
It is an informal autobiography in which the writer explores her emotional process from painful childhood, through the development of her theories and later insights, told via the display and discussion of 66 of her original paintings, painted in the years Days before her death Alice Miller wrote: "These letters will stay as an important witness also after my death under my copyright. Having been strongly impressed by the book, Miller contacted Mehr in order to get the name of the therapist.
From that time forward, Miller refused to make therapist or method recommendations. In open letters, Miller explained her decision and how she originally became Stettbacher's disciple, but in the end she distanced herself from him and his regressive therapies. Miller blamed psychologically abusive parents for the majority of neuroses and psychoses. She maintained that all instances of mental illness , addiction , crime and cultism were ultimately caused by suppressed rage and pain as a result of subconscious childhood trauma that was not resolved emotionally, assisted by a helper, which she came to term an "enlightened witness.
Even psychiatrists , psychoanalysts and clinical psychologists were unconsciously afraid to blame parents for the mental disorders of their clients, she contended. According to Miller, mental health professionals were also creatures of the poisonous pedagogy internalized in their own childhood.
This explained why the Commandment "Honor thy parents" was one of the main targets in Miller's school of psychology. It was her contention that the majority of therapists fear this truth and that they work under the influence of interpretations culled from both Western and Oriental religions, which preach forgiveness by the once-mistreated child.
She believed that the unconscious command of the individual, not to be aware of how he or she was treated in childhood, led to displacement : the irresistible drive to repeat abusive parenting in the next generation of children or direct unconsciously the unresolved trauma against others war , terrorism , delinquency. The roots of violence[ edit ] According to Alice Miller, worldwide violence has its roots in the fact that children are beaten all over the world, especially during their first years of life, when their brains become structured.
Cruelty to children was an unacknowleged procedure. Psychotherapy with psychotic patients invariably discovered abuse dating back to infancy, and recovery required maternal nursing care to fill the damaged part of the psyche, the right brain. The following is a brief summary of Miller's books. The Drama of the Gifted Child Das Drama des begabten Kindes, [ edit ] In her first book also published under the titles Prisoners of Childhood and The Drama of Being a Child , Miller defined and elaborated the personality manifestations of childhood trauma.
She addressed the two reactions to the loss of love in childhood, depression and grandiosity ; the inner prison, the vicious circle of contempt , repressed memories , the etiology of depression, and how childhood trauma manifests itself in the adult. According to prevailing, general attitudes these people--the pride of their parents--should have had a strong stable sense of self-assurance. But exactly the opposite is the case