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I aim to make you ready and motivated to get out there and start mixing it up with friends, colleagues, and potential dates. Flirting is a subtle combination of body language, confidence, attitude, and appearance. When you flirt with someone they feel good about themselves, and in return you feel good too. I cover all of these issues in this book. What you need to know now are some of the basic principles that apply to flirting, explained in the following sections.
One critic complained that the book seemed too vague, but it seems that it would be a good read for a beginner. It's a good read for the young, the old, the experienced and inexperienced. This playful read with pages teaches you to let your inner flirt out. Written by a critically acclaimed sex expert, this book delves into the fundamentals of body language and helps readers to decipher mixed signals. This is a tongue-in-cheek guide to exploring what makes people stand out in a crowd and how they do it.
The end result of the book is that anyone can accomplish this feat. Written by a former Australian matchmaker and a motivational speaker, this book focuses on developing self-confidence, understanding non-verbal communication and overcoming one's fear of rejection.
The premise of the book is that a good flirt makes everyone feel good. What Else? Total Flirt.
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Dave Singleton. I Used To Miss Him Identifying your constraints is the first step on the way to challenging and overcoming them. Cutting the apron strings Bob had a place on his own, having separated from his girlfriend. Eventually Bob decided it was time to get out before he turned into his father. By now his mother was well into her new weekend regime and resented the change. She went out of her way to keep him at home with her, even letting herself in ready to meet Bob and any new lady friend he happened to bring home for coffee.
It was tough, but Bob managed to cut the apron strings and motivate himself away from a life of Saturday night TV and a hearty meal with his mum, towards getting out and meeting some new faces. To get out and get flirting, you need to challenge your constraints and gather your motivation. To be able to flirt spontaneously, you need to work on changing your motivation.
Applying the rule to improve your approach A clever bloke called Pareto developed the rule, which basically says that 80 per cent of problems can be solved by 20 per cent effort.
This principle can be applied to many things. By applying the same approach to the constraints that inhibit your flirting, you can make great progress. Rather than tackle every little thing individually, which would essentially delay your chance 7Summits Chapter 2: Identifying Your Flirting Style 27 to make the most of your flirting opportunities, you could fix one thing that would lead to the biggest gains for yourself.
To do this, take your list of constraints and categorise them from the biggest flirting inhibitor to the smallest. Give each constraint a weighting of between 1 and , with the total value of all the constraints adding to Pick the biggest value constraint and put your efforts into overcoming it.
Using your subconscious to your advantage is very simple: only tell it good things and it will gradually boost your confidence to giant proportions. Same figure, different perspectives Patsy was a tall, attractive woman with no shortage of male admirers.
However, she obsessed about her figure and managed to convince herself she was fat. Her friends continually assured her she had a great figure, but the self-doubt continued. They were surprised to see that it was actually Patsy. Not only had she altered her own body image in her head, her negativity had also caused her friends to see her in the same way.
After their shock at their altered image of Patsy, her friends insisted that no more negative talk be allowed and gradually even Patsy started to like what she saw in the mirror. Be positive with yourself and the people around you to maintain your best possible self-image. Even if the change is welcome, you can still find it challenging. Emulating someone you admire Copying someone you admire — your flirting icon — is one of the simplest ways to improve your flirting style.
Picking your flirting icon When you pick your icon, do so with care.
When I was tiny I loved watching Marilyn Monroe films. I quickly learned that when adapting a style, choosing someone more akin to your own personality and the times than a throw back from decades ago is best. In our celebrity-obsessed culture, business professionals, entrepreneurs, film, music, and reality TV stars are all available icons. Just pick one you identify with.
She was friendly, bubbly, and outgoing, and men loved her. However, she was constantly undermining her own confidence as a flirt because she perceived that she lacked sophistication.
Her friend asked her to explain exactly what she meant. Before making any radical changes to your flirting style, seek the opinion of someone you trust. Does your icon, in an interview situation, smile and make good eye contact, remain composed but approachable, talk candidly on any subject, and so on? Chapter 5 gives you a great boost on working on your appearance, Chapter 7 helps you emulate their instant appeal, and Part III helps you replace your body language sins with star quality.
Taking advantage of all those missed opportunities is the next step in ramping up your flirting abilities. Make a conscious decision to do something different. This may sound counterintuitive, but if your total missed opportunities are zero or very few, then some lifestyle changes are needed. In other words, if you have few opportunities to capitalise on, you need to actually make some. You need to be around people to make yourself feel more human and involved see Chapter 6 for ideas on where to find other singletons.
Other ways to increase your flirting opportunities include taking a walk at lunchtime near a busy sandwich shop, joining a club anything from badminton to energy conservation , or getting online and involved in a virtual community. Prioritise your opportunities into those you feel are the easiest to approach first. Eyebrow flashes see Chapter 7 for more on these are very easy on the comfort zone, as well as being non-sexual in intention, and are the most commonly reciprocated.
Try eyebrow flashing the big boss at work. Undeterred, Julia bought herself a computer and got online. She met various people on everything from forums to dating sites. Eventually, she met a guy with whom she had mutual chemistry, and five years down the line she has lots of online friends and is getting married. If you want to improve your skills you have to be prepared to go further and take risks. Ramping up your efforts in the right order not only builds your confidence, you suddenly find yourself surrounded by friendly opportunities.
The risk scale in Figure shows which ways of communicating have most and least risk. Setting yourself flirting challenges Getting results requires challenges. To get results in a diet, for example, you have to set targets; most diets initially aim for a 10 per cent loss in your body weight. Why not use that figure as a target to improve your flirting? For great flirting results, look to hit 10 per cent of your flirting opportunities with an eyebrow flash, smile, and greeting in your first few days.
If you have ten opportunities a day, a 10 per cent improvement means you have to connect with just one person. Head to Chapter 8 for details on making conversation with anybody.
Chapter 13 tells you how. Reading the flirting thermometer A scale of flirting hotness exists. If you go in too hot too quickly, you may come across as over-eager. Mastering the scale helps you recognise when someone is having a flirtation with you and also enables you to give them the right signs back to ensure your flirtation goes down smoothly.
Playing it cool means applying the basics to let someone know that you like them — smiling, eye contact, and the initial groundwork for a full-on flirt. However, the women he dated never really made it into a proper relationship. Dan was at a loss as to how to proceed until he discovered the flirting thermometer. Using this guide, he increased his temperature for those women he really liked and looked for responsive changes in them.
He also used it in his business relationships to ensure he projected the right signals to clients. Getting the hang of the flirting thermometer benefits all of your relationships. When you want to flirt with someone, think about where you fall on the scale and then consider where they are.
Chapter 11 covers how to use body language and Chapter 12 explains how to recognise signs of flirting.